luceos okay, after reading everything around, I found my issue. Figured this out while I was troubleshooting Redis issues actually. (Not sending emails).
I cannot configure supervisor or anything to trigger within my flarum directory. (I use CloudPanel and Root cannot access files and such inside of a website, and site manager cannot have root permissions to install supervisor or anything else)
So I configured Redis to be triggered by Cron every minute. Not ideal, but I figured if I disable email notifications and enable email activation switch, the que will be less for emails and I won't run more processes in the database or wait for file que to trigger)
Can I use the command php flarum realtime:serve to fire every minute? I know it will be delayed for "Someone is typing..." but it should at least help with page reload for new content correct? Every minute? A minute seems relatively enough in my opinion for page updates.