"I never look back, darling. It distracts from the now."
-Edna Mode
Joking aside...
It took me a moment or two to come to grips with why I really wanted the traditional way of building a forum.
The following is just my journey, and is not meant to tell anyone else they are wrong for what they do... ?
I feel like I'm a forum junkie. I've been around forums/bulletin boards since the-good-ol'-days. Because of this history, it became enjoyable to create elaborate organizational discussion category systems. Everything was neat and in its place, and because I was familiar with the system, I knew exactly how to find things. Meaningful conversations could happen, and the subject of the conversations was protected by the rules. This allowed a topic to be discussed until its full conclusion, or at least while interest in the topic lasted.
Since the "social media wars", online communities have shifted.
This is just my opinion ... but for what it's worth ... I feel like the shift changed from meaningful online conversations to... talking "at" each other. It became so easy to log on... blast my opinion to all 300+- of my "friends/followers/top-8-people/pick-your-group-description" ... and not care about getting a meaningful response. One comment on a "wall/feed" could have 4 different opinions on 3 different topics that are completely unrelated other than "I'm offended by something". There are so many other scenarios I could bring up, but for the sake of brevity I will leave it here. This scenario isn't always the case. There are times when meaningful conversations do happen. I'm just pointing out that "talking-at" happens very often.
My experience thus far has been, that the "social culture" of today doesn't seem have the patience to find a community -> topic -> category -> sub-category to have a meaningful conversation with other people. A traditional forum system can often (but not always) be overwhelming from a newcomer's perspective. So, mostly, the only people willing to engage in conversation this way are other forum-junkies.
Now, I have many reasons why I want to get away from social media and take back control of our online communities, and I feel like somehow we need to provide a way. I feel like flarum is doing well with providing a way.
This software has such a fresh and open approach to engaging in meaningful conversation again that isn't difficult for a newcomer to be a part. It is very easy to install, and setup. It will be easier still as an installer package can be worked out for those who don't feel comfortable with command line access to a server. It is a joy to use. It's easy and fairly pain free to organize conversations with the tag system, so people don't have to be afraid to post in the wrong area.
To me, flarum is one of the best options out there to have ease of use, and meaningful online conversations with other people.
I hope that all came across well. ?